Breaking the Rules as an Overachiever with Heather Whelpley
Today's Elite Achievement guest is an expert on imposter syndrome and perfectionism. She has inspired thousands of individuals at various companies and conferences across the United States through her keynote speeches and webinars.
Heather Whelpley is a speaker, author, and consultant who helps women let go of other people's expectations and instead make their own rules for life. Heather published her first book An Overachievers Guide to Breaking the Rules in 2020. In this episode, Kristin and Heather dig deeper into topics such as the inner critic vs. the true inner voice, manic mode, how to set boundaries, and much more.
Highlights
06:24 It's always been this balance between self-reflection and outward action. Because I learned through doing both that if I'm completely missing the quiet and the space and the self-reflection, then I can take actions that are not really aligned to who I am, and that true inner voice, and my own values. But if I'm only doing self-reflection, then I'm not learning from others.
08:31 That was certainly true for me that I was trying to prove at least a part of my worth as a human through this external achievement by getting things done, by doing them well, by having them validated by other people.
11:24 So I think the first step in defining what success means to you is starting to unravel what it doesn't mean to you. To understand the definition that you've been given and sifting through what part of that works for you, and what doesn't. Because it's not about throwing it all out the window. It's about looking at it and saying, of what was given to me or what I've learned over the years, what still holds true for me now, and what doesn't hold true for me?
13:43 In every part of my business, even though I was in year one, I still felt like I was behind where I was supposed to be.
33:16 The problem is, the true inner voice is very strong but it's not always loud. And especially when we aren't used to listening to it, or it's kind of been trained out of us not to listen to it.
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